I've been thinking about it. I guess my answer is this:
If I am friends with someone, my degree of friendship is usually a reflection of their importance to me.
If you are my good friend I'll will beat my brains out to keep you entertained, engaged and happy. Whatever it is that my good friend needs, I will try to fill that gap for them.
But do I sit around and think "Gee, I'm such a good friend to them" at any point? No. It's not about that. I'm doing whatever I can for them because I want them to feel loved and understand what they mean to me.
I don't need anything in return. Why?
Because friendships, really strong friendships, are built on focusing on the other, not the self.
Natalie Blake is an open book and a bad speller.