Did you ever bring up the open marriage option to your spouse? Were you ever caught cheating? Just wondering how that all works
Oh yes, I did. and all I got was judgement and nastiness.
Since in hindsight you can create a fantasy world of what "could have been," while I drove I imagined that if I had stayed married he'd have been cool with that.
LOL You've got to blog on how that conversation went.
I want intimacy and fucking at home. I don’t want to go search for it every week!
dtf, I hear ya.
Also, something you also have to keep in mind when you think an open marriage/relationship would be a good idea is what you're really looking for.
Are you looking for the physical sex aspect alone? Or are you looking for intimacy? Are you want an actual relationship and the sex that goes along with it?
I bring that up because I know now that an open marriage would not have worked for us. We both wanted a relationship with someone we could enjoy. If either of us found someone special, how would that have worked?
From what I've learned by talking to people, seen on TV and read on the web, open relationships only work out when there's a really strong bond and commitment between 2 people who sometimes play with others.
yah, so there you go... I know it wouldn't work for me because I'm a jealous guy. Also, having seen the movie "Sex Monster" (the only movie you need to watch regarding poly amorous relationships) I know these things seem doomed to fail and are probably more work than a conventional relationship.
I want it all! Im not very good at sharing someone I love, not sure I can. I can try anything once, but would hate to screw up a really good thing.
I've actually thought about this. On first thought it sounds great. Have your daily partner/friend to help run the house, help with the kids, etc. Then have the fun one on the side. However, I know I would eventually fall for the fun one.
Well put LH
PLUS - in my marriage we co-mingled our money. SO, when is it OK to spend money you BOTH earned on the new flame YOU'RE fooling around with? And vice versa... Who wants to see their hard-earned cash being wasted on someone else? Nobody. Ever.
And, in our case, there were kids at my house - so whomever I fall for sure wasn't coming over here - or spending the night with me. And, I couldn't very well spend the night out without explaining to them - it wouldn't have ever worked.
But I will tell you - of all the strangers I've talked to on all the trips I've taken, everyone thinks about it - if and how it could work for their relationship.
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