I told her that it bothers me greatly that this person was so quick to judge me when I admitted that I had cheated on my husband.
She said "Have you ever heard of the Shadow Self?"
She explained it like this:
"When you don't like someone - maybe you know why and maybe you don't - what you don't like about them is usually something you don't like about yourself, whether you've acknowledged it or not. That part of you where you keep the things about yourself you're ashamed of or scared of or don't even recognize as part of your personality is your Shadow Self. Judgement comes from the Shadow Self. People judge becuase they're afraid. They're afraid of what THEY are as much as they fear the person they're judgeing."
My heart raced.
She continued: "I know you get what I'm saying becuase your eyes just lit up and you're glowing. Think about that. Think about the person who cut you loose and then think about why you don't like the people you don't like. I know you can think this through becuase you've spent the last few years seeking out and confronting your Shadow Self - you just didn't realize thats what you were doing."
She was right. As far as thinking goes, this is right in my wheelhouse. I love taking the journey through all the aspects of what this could mean... to myself, my children, and the people I'm closest to.
Either you're in a personal place to "get" this or you're not.
I'm there. And this makes complete sense to me.
Here's are excerpts from the link below:
"...the shadow or "shadow aspect" is a part of the unconscious mind consisting of repressed weaknesses, shortcomings, and instincts."
"the shadow, in being instinctive and irrational, is prone to projection: turning a personal inferiority into a perceived moral deficiency in someone else"
"the shadow sometimes overwhelms a person's actions; for example, when the conscious mind is shocked, confused, or paralyzed by indecision."
"...and the less it is embodied in the individual's conscious life, the blacker and denser it is."
I'll let you read more if you'd like.