That made me cry.
The deal is this: if the two people who love each other and share passion and intimacy aren't in a place to accept each other as whole individuals, warts and all, they're no better off than people who only share love OR passion (or neither.)
AND I learned that protecting your partner from the truth, hurt, difficult situations, etc. will lead to resentment. That resentment, if not dealt with in a constructive and positive way, will lead to the slow, painful demise of the relationship you covetted so much you didn't want to hurt it in the first place.
All of that is really fucked up.
But what's more fucked up is that I've lived it all.