What is usually said is more along the lines of, "Just tell me, Babe, I'll be fine with it if you're just honest with me. I can take it." Yeah, I'm sure both men and women mean it when they say it, too.
I've said it. I've meant it. I haven't meant it. But even when I haven't meant it, I've kept my word. I've wanted to flip out. Wanted to beg and bargain. But I haven't. I've maintained my cool on the outside, even when I was melting down on the inside.
That hasn't always been the case. In college I lost. There was a boy who dumped me - I never saw it comming. At the time, I couldn't see how bad he was for me. At the time, I felt hurt and inadequate. At the time, I wanted him.
So, I embarrassed myself.
And I swore it would never happen again.
When I hear those words from men now, I acknowledge their intent, but I keep in mind the reality that the odds are very high that they will not be cool when the time comes. Because it always comes, eventually.