If humans are born with a hard-wired internal drive to get away from things that can hurt us, why can’t we always get away from someone we care about but know can hurt us emotionally?
If someone had a gun or knife or even a spear we would run away as fast as we could.
But when we part with someone we care about either by choice or necessity, we long to be near them once more – even though we know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, it will be painful.
It hurts our heart. It sickens our stomach. It jeopardizes other aspects of our lives.
But we’d do almost anything for a glimpse, a note, a sign that they too are feeling the same pain without us and want to be close again.
Everyone has felt this at least once in life - a lost love, a former friend or someone who has passed away.
One would think that for all the harm we instinctively run from, that we would have evolved to simply part ways with someone that does not make us better people.
I suppose “Flight or Fight” is involved in there somewhere. And a large part would be attributed to the differences in physical threats vs. the human condition.
I have to say…I’m a tad disappointed that we aren’t all better at this by now.