When I was married I reflected that in my Facebook profile. Then, once the divorce was final I changed my status – only to have that be the way the majority of my friends and acquaintances found out that I was no longer half of what many thought was the perfect marriage. It wasn’t just a click of the mouse, it was an embarrassing and public admittance of failure.
Then, while I was dating BF, he was constantly nagging me to change my relationship status to “In a relationship”. I wouldn’t do it. I tried to explain that it had nothing to do with him, or how I felt about him, but he was adamant that even though I had introduced him to my family, my friends, taken him everywhere I’d gone for a year, and posted pics of us on Facebook and talked about him there, I must be ashamed of him - why else would I not want to tell my personal and professional friends that we were together?
He never understood that I didn’t ever want to uncheck “In a relationship” again.
Now TAG is here. He is awesome.
As soon as he wanted to Friend me, I explained the rules, guidelines and expectations of being Natalie Blake’s Facebook friend. I told him that I would not change my relationship status, would rarely post pictures of us/him and would seldom mention him and that I don’t care what he does on his Facebook as far as mentioning me, posting pics of me, and how he wanted to manage his own relationship status. He seemed fine with that. He said he understood. He said he got why I didn’t want to announce to everyone I know that I was “in” then eventually “out” of a relationship.
But, I’m not sure he does get it.
He wrote me an email this weekend actually asking my permission to post a photo of us taken a few weeks ago while on a short vacation to the Hill Country. This is what it said:
“Babe – I know how sensitive you are about pics on Facebook and seems like you’re averse to mentioning me on there – all cool. But, would you have a problem if I put this on my page?”
Does anyone else glean the passive aggressive tone underlying that first sentence? Hmmmm… not sure what to do with that.
I guess I’m going to keep my Facebook profile relationship-less.
Because of That. Right. There.